Monday, 9 March 2009

Something close to my heart

I've never publicly mentioned this before but after seeing the headlines today i felt the need to.
I wish that back in 2007 i had been brave enough to report my then partner for Domestic Violence. Going through Chemotherapy was bad enough a thing to contend with and i really didn't need treating as bad as i was by him
Eventually i got out......I really wish i had reported him as i've recently found out he is doing the same thing to his current lady friend!

Anyway, this is whats been on the news.

Abusive partners to be named
Published: Monday, 9 March 2009, 8:01AM

The Government has been accused of "gimmicks and spin" over plans to place abusive partners on a register.
Home Secretary Jacqui Smith claims the move would allow potential victims to be warned of their history, while police could also be given powers to ban offenders from the family home for a fortnight.
But unveiling the proposals, Ms Smith was left shocked after the chief executive of women's charity Refuge launched a verbal assault on the plans.
Sandra Horley said the plans would lead to a database of domestic abusers and criticised Government action on domestic violence so far as "piecemeal".
She said: "We have had enough talking - we need action. As for the perpetrators' register, it is a gimmick and doesn't address the root problem.
"The majority of violent men don't come to the attention of police and it won't keep women safe.
"Police can't be expected to monitor relationships and love lives of offenders."
The proposals come as it was announced the Independent Police Complaints Commission (IPCC) will examine the case of Katie Summers.
She was killed by her jealous ex-partner, Brian Taylor, even though Greater Manchester Police (GMP) visited her four times in the days preceding her death.
And last week, the family of a woman murdered by her abusive husband accused the Crown Prosecution Service of negligence as her killer was jailed for life.
Malik Mannan stabbed to death Sabina Akhtar, 26, while in breach of his bail conditions.
The consultation document set out by Ms Smith also includes ideas for tackling issues such as partner abuse, honour killings, female genital mutilation, and the sexualisation of young girls.
In 2007, 142 people died in domestic attacks, including 38 men. Hundreds of thousands of individuals are thought to suffer some kind of abuse at home every year.


  1. What an excellent idea. I do know how unserious many officers take on Domestic Abuse. I had a friend who was abused and would arrive in the middle of the night to pick her up while the sociopath would keep us waiting for hours as he tried to talk her out of leaving and turning things around to make me think that she was indeed crazy. Wow! Is it too late to report him even after this time? Maybe you could connect with her and you could both report him.

    Now as for stress; I suggest you avoid that Bad New Newspaper you are reading. The media has a way of stressing us out and scaring the crap out of us. I have been tempted to call my own San Jose Mercury Bad News and give them a piece of my mind. Stress has a way of affecting our cancer. Anyway I wish you the absolute best in your healing.

  2. Stressed? Thats something i most certainly arn't hahaha.. laid back thats me chuck. But thank you for your words of wisdom xx

  3. all men who beat/abuse women should be jailed [at the very least]. I experienced that too - they are cowards. A list of them would be handy - at least that way we women could check up on new partners before getting thrown down the stairs...what a depressing society we live some respects anyway.

    CJ - totally right - I can't bear the news! Does my head in!

    So Crackers, did I appear on your Feedjit?? ;O)